I am a new mom….what’s next?
Let’s face it. Being a new mom is not easy. It is a life changing transition that you are going through not knowing what you are getting into, how is going to be, and how you are going to handle all the new stressors of everyday life.
You try to prepare yourself during the last trimester of your pregnancy. You wash the clothes, stuck up on diapers and wipes, prepare freezer ready meals… but life verifies that plan quickly once your little one joins you. The chaotic, disorganized and overwhelming life begins. All your plans and schedules don’t work as well as you thought they would.
So, now what??? You have a newborn that needs you but you feel so overwhelmed that you don’t know what to do. You would want to hide and let the problems resolve on their own but life doesn’t goes that way!
Now, it is a time when you will need that extra support! Motherhood can be emotionally exhausting and challenging. You may feel the need of sharing only how happy you are because you have a baby. However, deep down you have all those other, more negative feelings. Don’t be ashamed of how you feel. This is not who you are as a mom or a person. You don’t have to feel bad about yourself or feel guilty of having feelings of uncertainty or ambivalence. Remember that you are not the only one.
Becoming a new mother may be overwhelming. Feelings of depression or anxiety may arise as a hormonal imbalance, sleep deprivation, body-image struggles, every day stressors. In same cases, these feelings may go away after a while but in others, professional help may be needed. Feeling stressed to, depressed, or anxious puts a toll not only on a new mother but also on a baby and her partner. It affects the way new mom interacts with others, the way she treats her baby and herself.
Remember that asking for help after giving birth is a sign of strength and not a weakness. Don’t compare yourself to other moms. Start treating yourself with the same compassion love, and nurture that you treat others.
As a professional counselor, I have been working with mothers struggling with postpartum depression and anxiety for more than 10 years. I started my training when I was in graduate school in Poland . I conducted a research in prenatal attachment between mothers’ and their unborn children and mothers’ predispositions to suffer from postpartum related difficulties. Since then, I have been working and supporting expecting and then new mothers, as well as, their partners, husbands, and families.
During our sessions, I will focus on giving you a support that you need and provide you with strategies that will help you to overcome your struggles related to adjustment to the new life role. We will work on feelings of shame, guilt, and sadness, and will uncover the underlying causes of your presenting problems.
You don’t have to face your struggles alone. I am here to help you. I offer group therapy for new moms every Monday at 10:00am. Come by yourself or bring your baby with you. I also provide in-home evaluation and therapy that can be scheduled by contacting me at firstname.lastname@example.org
NEW MAMAS GROUP:
Mondays @ 10:00am (Starts on Oct..29th)
The New Mamas Group is a 5-week group program for women who recently had a baby and has been feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, anxious, or depressed. The group is designed for moms who notice signs of severe distress that exceeded the common symptoms of “Baby Blues” that women may experience after giving birth.
The group will provide support in a non-judgmental and nurturing atmosphere. Moms will be free to express the way they feel, talk about their every day struggles, and consequences that their mood may have on relationships with husbands, partners, or other children.
The group will incorporate discussion about personal struggles and difficulties coming from being a new mom, introduction to strategies helpful to overcome daily struggles, anxious and intrusive thoughts, self-criticism, doubts, and guilt, as well as, it will end with an introduction to mindfulness, as a way of staying focused in a present moment.