What do you do for yourself?
How many times do you put your life on hold and focus just on you? How many times do you want to read the book but you decide to start the laundry, go to the grocery store, or finish a work project? How many times do you neglect your own personal needs because you felt guilty of taking time to cherish and fulfill your own needs?
Whatever you feel right now, your feelings are valid. Maybe you feel ashamed, guilty, embarrassed, puzzled. Maybe you feel totally in peace with your daily decisions and you don’t understand where am I going with this?
Well, for some of us, putting our personal needs on hold may lead to disappointment, over- exhaustion, burn out, or even depression We tend to neglect what we need because there is always something more important to do. Our children, partners, families or friends may be more important than finding a few minutes, maybe an hour a day to fulfill what we really need.
Why do we need to take a break and satisfy our inner needs?
~ If you focus on other people, you loose the sense of who you are and what you need. It will be difficult to describe who you are if you stop focusing on satisfying your personal needs and wants.
~ If you focus solely on making other people happy, satisfied, fulfilled, you will also loose your sense of self. You will neglect your inner self and eventually you will get upset, tired, or exhausted of making other people happy.
~ If your goal is to be a perfect mom, wife, daughter or a friend, you will notice that eventually you will try so hard to please other people that you will also get lost in your new reality. You may start to feel that you don’t belong or that you don’t’ know what your life story is all about.
So what do we need to do to live a satisfying and fulfilled life?
I understand that you may feel like you can’t take a break during your busy day. I know that you need to juggle to be a mom, a wife, an employee, a cook, a housekeeper, or a tutor and that the idea of getting up earlier than your children or taking time when they are already asleep and using an hour of your time to focus just on you may seem bizarre. Well…..the truth is that dishes can wait, laundry can wait, work can wait…everything else can wait too.…even your partner will understand that you need your “me time.” It is ok to satisfy your personal needs. It is ok to go to the grocery store late at night by yourself. It is ok, to eat your children’ popcorn while reading a book or drink a morning coffee while staring at a beautiful sunrise. Be truthful, be real, be you! Remember that what defines you is not only your role as a mother, wife, daughter, house taker, or an employee. What defines you are your personal needs, values, wants, and desires. Don’t be afraid to be you!